Thursday, June 12, 2008

And Behind Door #3....

Since we last left our favorite show, Let's Make A Deal, some very interesting and very positive developments have taken place...

As hard as I hit at Donkette for the mess that was created i must now give her what she has earned in response, and happily and proudly so.

I spent a good hour of heart-to-heart on the phone with D and she decided to look within herself and to listen to her true friends and to step up to the plate of Honesty. I am not going to air all the intimate details simply because, for the most part, they are irrelevant to most of you. What counts and what does have to be stated is that Donkette has told me she wants to come clean, she wants to(and has) apologized to those she has hurt and, most importantly, she wants to better herself by conquering some of the issues she personally struggles with, as we all bear our own as well.
So for that, Donkette must be given the respect of one who faces the hard choices, knowing there is a nasty price that comes with it, but wanting to come out of the dark tunnel of deceipt and into the warm light of honesty amongst family and friends. It aint easy and there will be stumbles along the way, but victory shall be hers..

It is neccessary to say that thru most of this, regardless of the actions that took place, or didn't for that matter, Donkette always had her heart in the right place. Lots of us find ourselves there, in a place where we are trying to right a wrong or trying to help others and even though our hearts are in the right place, we fuck it up and dig a deeper hole nonetheless. NONE of us are perfect, except maybe Bone Daddy of course...

The point is, as humans, we have conflicting hardware and software within ourselves that sometimes makes it difficult to see the best course to embark upon when we have lofty goals or lofty dreams, whatever they are for each individual. Sometimes the heart and the head get into a struggle and the result turns out to be a grand clusterfuck of a mess that we simply cant figure out, so we end up digging deeper towards China until we are so lost we need rescuiing.. or until in some cases, we dissappear altogether. It doesnt make it right or even acceptable to those in the path of those hurricanes, but it is human. Human as in fragile, human as in tough, human as in vulnerable, human as in inspiring...but always human and never quite Divine, as much as we may strive to be as such..
And of course, to forgive is Human..or should be..

For most of you, who are aware of all this, only action is something you will consider in your deliberation and that is fair enough. The actions that have already transpired have brought the verdict we have read about over the past few weeks and it is logical and valid.

Donkette has told me she is going to take another action that will make some things right and put to bed a whole portion of the mess that got this whole thing started. And as such, when she does this action, I would hope and expect that the verdicts and pronouncements that so easily flowed from some in the dark light of deserved negativity, including yours truly, will be reversed with the same passion, openness and 'eloquence' in our public forums as they were when the wagons were circled and the guns were drawn, not so long ago..

For the record, the actions of which I speak are straightforward. There are 3 checks, each worth one buy-in to the WSOP main event, and on each of those are the names of the 3 original beneficiaries of this long and winding story. Those checks are in-hand of Donkette, verified by other unnamed,trusted people whose identities are irrelevant at this time. Those checks will be distributed very shortly to those 3 individuals and they will then use them to register in the Main Event in Vegas. When this action takes place, this whole saga will be over. Complete.C'est Finis, etc.
At that time, Donkette will have made those people whole and her credibility will and should be regained to a point that will be up to any of you to decide for yourselve. Knowing her and the whole story intimately, there are some other prices she will bear that will go a long way towards helping her grow as a person and will help the rest of us heal from what turned out to be a mess, but in the end, will become a fond story for debate and laughter many years into the future.

As in most cases of humanity, there will be much to be learned from all of this, and not just for Donkette. Im sure if we all examine ourselves we will be able to find some positives and negatives with which these events will serve to help us improve as individuals and as friends and as Human beings. Or as Sammy Hagar so eloquently put it(yes, even the master of crap lyrics can strike gold sometimes if you try long and hard enough..;-)) in the epic song by Van Halen, "..that's what makes us Humans Being..". (Its a great tune, check it out!)